In college, we played the “My Boyfriend Must Have” game.
We were a bunch of girls in a dorm – fueled by boredom and Sangria. We would make lists and dream up The Perfect Boyfriend.
The My Boyfriend Must Have List ran the gamut from:
A car – any car to get off campus
A credit card,
Soft lips and warm hands.
Eventually, we got serious and decided a passport and a trust fund were “Must Haves,” (followed by gales of laughter. Ole! More Sangria, por favor.)
Naturally, our answers changed with time; cool cars became more important.
One Man’s Shopping List – 2016
Trixie, 32, is recently divorced and new to online dating. She started dating has a man with a variation of ‘My Partner Must Have’ list. Hank created a very specific, lengthy catalogue of characteristics all his girl friends must have. Or else – hasta la vista, baby!
She asked me my professional opinion, was he “A keeper or too controlling?” You be the judge. Take a look at his list.
‘The Top 10 Must Have’ list from “Cool Dude in Palo Alto”
My perfect mate must have:
A healthy and fit body
You must maintain loving relations with long term and close friends, and family.
You must love children; you meet the challenges of parenting with empathy, humor, and wisdom
You must be financially solvent.
To keep up with me you have to have an active mind; you must have resolved the key issues of your life.
Must be emotionally very wise and comfortable
Must be emotionally warm, generous, and accessible
You must come from a happy home life, with parents who were happy and loved you.
You’ve must have been married, and know what it takes to make such a lifetime commitment work.
Is he Mr. Right or So wrong on many levels.
The list was preposterous…without wasting any time, I advised Trixie to delete and move on.
Any man with a shopping list that demanding and uber-specific – seeking a Barbie Doll, was barely worth the time it takes to hit the Delete button. She could do better. And have a lot more fun.
“The demand to be loved is the greatest of all arrogant presumptions.” Nietzsche