The ‘My boyfriend must have list’ – a joke?


In college, we played the “My Boyfriend Must Have” game.

We were a bunch of girls in a dorm – fueled by boredom and Sangria. We would make lists and dream up The Perfect Boyfriend.

 The My Boyfriend Must Have List  ran the gamut from:

A  car – any car to get off campus
A job
A 4.0
A credit card,
No roommates
Soft lips and warm hands.
Eventually, we got serious and decided a passport and a trust fund were “Must Haves,” (followed by gales of laughter. Ole! More Sangria, por favor.)

Naturally, our answers changed with time; cool cars became more important.


One Man’s Shopping List – 2016

Trixie, 32, is recently divorced and new to online dating.  She started dating has a man with  a variation of ‘My Partner Must Have’ list.  Hank created a very specific, lengthy catalogue of characteristics all his girl friends must have. Or else – hasta la vista, baby!

She asked me my professional opinion, was he “A keeper or too controlling?” You be the judge. Take a look at his list.

‘The Top 10 Must Have’ list from “Cool Dude in Palo Alto”

My perfect mate must have:

A healthy and fit body
You must maintain loving relations with long term and close friends, and family.
You must love children; you meet the challenges of parenting with empathy, humor, and wisdom

You must be financially solvent.

To keep up with me you have to have an active mind; you must have resolved the key issues of your life.
Must be emotionally very wise and comfortable
Must be emotionally warm, generous, and accessible

You must come from a happy home life, with parents who were happy and loved you.
You’ve must have been married, and know what it takes to make such a lifetime commitment work.

Is he Mr. Right or So wrong on many levels.

The list was preposterous…without wasting any time, I advised Trixie to delete and move on.

Any man with a shopping list that demanding and uber-specific – seeking a Barbie Doll, was barely worth the time it takes to hit the Delete button. She could do better. And have a lot more fun.


“The demand to be loved is the greatest of all arrogant presumptions. Nietzsche




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