You have given me great advice in the past, thank you.
I have a new boyfriend who is all good things: Ivy League education-a great job – lots of fun to be with -has a fabulous flat.
We’ve been together for a year. He has met my family and they like him a lot. I’ve never met his parents -they live on the east coast. His mother’s has been ill for a month or two and he is not been back to visit her. Today, I found out that she is very, very ill, perhaps at death’s door. He is somewhat cavalier and in denial. (If this was my parent- I would be there in a heartbeat.) I mentioned I would go back east with him. His dad said the mother is in hospice. He thinks, perhaps, next week he will fly back. This self-centered, new development has colored my thinking, respect, and interest in Johnny. Am I being overly sensitive?
Betty in Burlingame
I’m sorry to hear that the man that you are in love with shows so little interest in his family. Yes, you are right: his behavior speaks volumes. Any human being ( much less a son!) who fails to show up for a parent in hospice should give you pause. Rethink this one, Betty. There are red flags everywhere.
I’m a fan-and read your blog all the time. I am 35, divorced/ single, and was really enjoying this new dating life until the Pandemic started. Out of the blue, a guy I dated two years ago, reached out to me. At the time I found him “Just Okay.” We really didn’t have any chemistry – just went to a few plays and concerts together.
I am bored to tears- and I’m thinking maybe I’ll go out with him… What do you think?
I totally understand your boredom and frustration – join the club! Pandemic has put a kabosh on “easy romance.”
I would think twice about reconnecting with somebody who you found less than desirable – just to kill boredom. It’s not fair to him or you. However, Think about just talking on phone- don’t text! You want to hear his voice, inflection, the innuendo… In these times of pandemic, you also really want to know that he’s healthy… Whereas “What’s your sign?” used to be an ice breaker.. now the new query is “Have you been tested?” Good luck. Love, Laurel