The Best of San Francisco: Lola of SF

Bibi is a San Francisco Classic.

After college, she responded to the siren’s call- said adios to Albuquerque and drove to San Francisco. She found a room to rent in the Marina, with parking, and never looked back.

Her first job was at Starbucks on Union Street; then she became enthralled with the high-end jewler, Union Street Goldsmith and evolved into a superstar in sales. In no time, Bibi was picked up (stolen away) by HomeGoods Designs by Kress and eventually became a VP of Sales and was travelling to the Far East every other month.

All the while, Bibi was the one who sought out great parties and fun people. Her “Pilates Pals” were six single women who attended art openings, wine tastings, explored new bars, cafes and film festivals. Janize was her “work friend” and they went out for drinks a few times a week. Naturally, the two ran into the same faces and became pals with several groups of guys. Bibi had been in the City for five years and the new kids in town thought she was a goddess…She knew where to find the best Irish Coffee, Oysters, Dive Bars, Food Trucks and where parties were happening. Her social network was vast and her social calendar bustling.

She has one store – one very favorite clothing store – in San Francisco. For years, she never revealed her secret shopping Mecca: Lola San Francisco in Noe Valley (Corner of Clipper and Sanchez.) Bibi knows what she likes – and Lola can create it. Wow.

Lola does one of a kind, exquisite and eclectic dresses, coats, jackets, sweaters and divine hand bags.  

Lola designs lovely, high end, leather jackets which Bibi is magnetized to…The Pilates Pals  just assumed all of  her tres unique clothing came from her trips East.

One Christmas, Bibi was very  jet-lagged and without gifts for her pals…she popped into Lola SF and bought six BagBags from Lola. The girls went wild and the cat was out of the BagBag.

Lola SF is now a familar haunt for Bibi’s Girls.

Buy less. Choose well. Make it last. Quality, not quantity. Everybody’s buying far too many clothes.

Vivienne Westwood
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Dates bombing at the bar? Think: coffee

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Is he interested  and available and then- Bam! He disappears? 

Pssst: We call these guys Rude Dudes. And, advise you to avoid them at all costs,

Mimi B. lives in Millbrae ad considers herself a pretty, smart, successful woman. She had several boyfriends in college. She dated the love-of-her-life for two years before he broke up with her  and married someone else, a year later. She had dabbled on Match and jumped over to Bumble

She enjoyed a flood of attention and met tons of guys who were “Fine, not dreat.” Next. She got swept up with Tinder. Mimi B regales her friends with Tinder stories- some have been great- others laughbable and some very disappointing. Then she hit her stride. She laughed she could teach a class on weeding out dead end dates and the all-talk-no-action boys.

Have you ever been Stood Up? How many times?  More than once? Twice? More?

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Date night: You are dressed up, looking good, excited to meet the man you have been swiping texting thinking dreaming about…No dummy you, you text him to confirm the 9 pm drinks/date at the HaRa. Crickets. Tapping your foot – your mind races thinking of myriad excuses…another?

A Three Way With Ben and Jerry Sounds Good?

Scoop: Try a simple coffee date…meet your dates in daylight.

Keep it Simple. Cocktails on Date #2.

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This is not a lecture…just well-reseached data on dating.

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.”

Winston Churchill

 

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Hey! Look me over

Attention Getting DeVices….

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Trixie started out as a Baton Twirling Barbie in Junior High. The Team was: Blondes only, high pony tails, shorts skirts and deft skills at Baton. Her cadre travelled all over the state competing. It was rare that the  girls did not come home with the gold, silver or bronze.

In high school, Trixie joined the cheerleaders and stole the show with her gymnastics and Baton-moves thrown in for extra dazzle. While many of the other girls were blossoming, Trixie was tall, thin and thanked God and Victoria Secret for padded bras. Her high school graduation gift from her very cool grandmother, Channell, was breast augmentation surgery.

And so it began, over the moon-excited by her new figure, Trixie caught the bug. Her fairy grandmother (“Call me Channell, in public”) with the thigh-high boots, blonde extensions, short skirts, low cut tops and a perpetually surprised look on her…

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Tell me how you really feel?

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Any good Dating Coach will tell you to tread lightly when discussing politics on the first date. On the other hand, Mitzie in Milpitas had definite opinions and wanted the political cards on the table from the beginning. Her profile picture, entitled “I’m as mad as hell…”said it all .       anger-18658__340

No one would call her candid, political, feelings flirtacious, demure, or seductive. And, yet she attracted a number of men who agreed wth her passionate political agenda. Mitzie admitted, a ton of really out-there guys responded to her photo. Some of them were downright scary. 

It didn’t take Mitzi long to realize online dating sites were not the venue for espousing her private political views. She found greater success, more clicks and winks with a professional photo and a light, more subdued profile. She would wait for the right time to discuss politics.

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Arthur Wellesley

 

 

 

 

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Are you playing Old Maid? No Way

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Once upon a time, along time ago, Single women were called spinsters.

As a child, I remember there were church ladies: widows, old maids, spinsters-wearing gloves, hats and sensible shoes, with dark wool coats and purses on their arms.

They seemed quiet, demure and quaint-very Eleanor Rigby- holed up in apartments. It seemed there was a small, army of quiet women.

Who’s to say there weren’t weekly parties with pitchers of martini’s, embroidered cocktail napkins, Wedgewood plates piled high with Pigs in a Blanket, silver bowls with warm, salted almonds, Velveeta squares on a Ritz crackers and the stereo playing Rachmaninov and Sinatra?

Flash forward, and, today, Single women come in many shapes, sizes and status. Some of us are Single-on-purpose, divorced, widowed, not interested, Gay, happy alone, still looking.

We are a sisterhood.

Fact: Women can lapse into a serious conversation with another woman in the time it takes to cross a boulevard. A simple, “I like you shoes,” has opened multiple, brief, heart-to-hearts.

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Yesterday, well over 2 million women (allies, kindred spirits, mates, new friends) gathered in 300 cities together– all over America – with their hearts in the same place. There was an invisible blanket of love and righteous indignation hovering over all.

Girls don’t like bullies. We don’t like mean, lying, cheating, tyrants or intimidators. We loathe sadistic, brutish and diabolical people. We are beyond incensed when our elected leaders sink to the depths of dishonesty and deceit.

Women are daughters, sisters, cousins, aunts, mothers and grandmothers…we may be kind and benevolent- however, we are not taking it any more.

We are not.

We Shall Persist. We Shall Resist.

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Romantic success story

cloud-600224__180-2Colleen will tell you she had so much fun her first three years being single while swimming in online dating pool.

First she met Johnny on Chemistry.com. She met Fred on JDate, Michael on Match and then Bert and Rick and Paul and Henry followed.

Her married friends were entertained with her stories.

She had “dates” three nights a week- her dance card was a very full- and her stories were fun and some exciting.

Colleen says she had been depressed for so long, she forgot how to have fun. Her celebratory party after the divorce was “the beginning” of a new a chapter and a new life.

After college, she had been a waitress, then a flight attendant. She transitioned into sales and became the director. She met Mr. Right – married, had kids. She had numerous part-time jobs and after years of marital struggles; she finally mustered the courage to divorce her husband.

Her best friend, Lilly, the copywriter, help her with her online profiles, she took the flattering pictures and got her up and running all in one afternoon.

By Monday morning, Colleen’s email box was full of winks and blinks from interested men. Lilly had warned her it would be a feeding frenzy in the beginning – she would be considered” fresh meat.” Colleen loved all the attention she was getting. She fell in and out of love multiple times and said she “really enjoyed every crush.”

15DATING1-master675Much to her surprise, one day Colleen re-kindled a relationship with a man from her college days. They ran into one another at a Santa Clara Wine Tasting. Kismet. She then  dated Tim, exclusively,  for three years before they made plans to move in together.

She says she is blissfully embarking upon her Happily Every After Chapters.

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Amazon sells AK-47s ?

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If you are like me – you love Amazon Shop for everything from cosmetics to clothes and shoes and rings and things… and dozens of other “misc items.”

New Moms love the ease of ordering diapers, formula, baby items, and chocolate.

Fisherman find the site very alluring for fishing gear – boots, hooks, lures, rods, reels…

Chef’s capitalize on the quality of spices quickly available, the variety of pans, some linens…a lot of stuff.

Sit down for this:

Did you know Amazon sells guns? Big, serious, dangerous, guns?

How does that make you feel?

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Yes, we hate that Amazon advertises on the nefarious Bretibart site.
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