Tell me how you really feel?

Signs of the Times

Any good Dating Coach will tell you to tread lightly when discussing politics on the first date. On the other hand, Mitzie in Milpitas had definite opinions and wanted the political cards on the table from the beginning. Her profile picture, entitled “I’m as mad as hell…”said it all .       anger-18658__340

No one would call her candid, political, feelings flirtacious, demure, or seductive. And, yet she attracted a number of men who agreed wth her passionate political agenda. Mitzie admitted, a ton of really out-there guys responded to her photo. Some of them were downright scary. 

It didn’t take Mitzi long to realize online dating sites were not the venue for espousing her private political views. She found greater success, more clicks and winks with a professional photo and a light, more subdued profile. She would wait for the right time to discuss politics.

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Arthur Wellesley

 

 

 

 

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His photo on Tinder gave pause

Shelia was thrilled to be up and running on Tinder. 

She had dabbled on EHarmony and Match.com and grew tired of the back and forth messaging- she dubbed both sites “all talk no action.”

Her 30-year old neice, Patsy, bragged about her dozens of dates on Tinder. Patsy was out every night and her dating domain was Rosewood in Palo Alto.

Shelia got the Cliff Notes from her neice: they discussed “age and distance” and set up the account. Daters over 30 pay $19.99 to get in the game.  She would swipe Right if she liked the guy – swipe Left to reject. 

The photos of the men in Shelia’s age group were eclectic. There was the stout guy without a shirt, a guy wearing a lampshade, a man and his gun, and an old photo of #45.

She had reservations about going forward. Confused by the barrage of bizarro boys, she let her neice handle her foray in Tinder World.

In two weeks time, Shelia bragged and called herself a Tinder heart. She had ten dates with a wide variety of men. Her acuity in Swiping was much improved. She readily admits 50% of the guys were looking for a one night stand. The novelly waned.

Fortunately, she ran into George at Whole Foods, in a very long check out line, and a connection happened. Just like that. She encourages smiling at strangers. A lot.

 

via Daily Prompt: Reservation

Mind the Gap- dress for dating success?

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Problem: First Date in three years. What to say, what to wear?

Solution: Shop your closet or take quick trip to the Gap for a pair of flattering new slacks and a filmy peasant blouse. Pick up a chunky necklace at H&M or Charming Charlie’s. Slip on a  pair of neutral flats.

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Say what? How to avoid the communication gap: Relax, ask questions and listen. After the date, follow these three tips:

#1. Always say ‘Thank you.’

#2 First Date: Offer to pay your half. At a meal – offer to pay for the drinks or the dessert- don’t assume the man is going to pick up the tab.

#3. Respond sil vous plait…RSVP – If an individual has gone to the trouble of sending you an email, the courteous thing to do (even if the person is not your liking) is to respond. Thank the person for the correspondence and either go forward or say, “Thanks, we are not a match – good luck.”

Remember the Golden Rule

 

 

via Discover Challenge: Mind the Gap