Lambie, Don’t follow the flock –


All you friends say you have to meet a guy for “Fancy Drinks” on a first date.

Wimpy Coffee Dates are for Baby Boomers. Baaa

The Hip, Cool, Smart, Kids meet for Designer Cocktails involving crushed lavender, bitters, and a potpourri of now hip -soon to be “dated” trendy liquids.

Wanna throw back a hot drink called  Nitro Gimlet? Your grandparents sipped Gimlets – They’re baaaack!  A new liquor emporium lists extensive selection of Boilermakers ( yawn) 
chamomile bourbon, chili arbol, banana liqueur, and oloroso sherry. Yum-banana liqueur – better on pancakes!

Wanna be French Quarter-ish: Try a San Francisco Hurricane with Two kinds of light/ dark rum, Galliano, citrus, passion fruit, bitters. I thought Galliano died with Mateus and Annie GreenSprings Wine.

Hey, Apple Boy of my eye – Why not try All About Eve Concotion of walnut-washed bourbon, Foro amaro, cocchi di Torino, and bitters. Buckle Up,Binkie,  it is going to be a bumpy ride when you have zero idea what those ingredients are. Whats with all the Bitters?

Worst named Cocktail du Jour: Swizzle My Nizzle As expected? Fresh passionfruit, with a dollop of blanco tequila, modicum of vanilla, a squeeze of lime, and a blast of firewater bitters. Yum? Dum?


You decide…it may be an oversight meet for drinks-with-bitters,etc

and  to miss the initial classic coffee date and the “getting to know you” hour.



Hiding behind the mask:a first date


Johnny and Jane met online. Perhaps she went a little fast. She will readily admit to not “Reading all the words.” She just skims, looks at pictures of men served up on the online dating sites and gets excited.

She pushes the “Send” Button way too soon.

Johnny is a CPA named “John,” during the day. He works for a pretty famous company – and has been with this Fortune 400 company for over 12 years.

After 6:oo pm, the necktie and Hush Puppies disappear. John does a metamorphosis  and, bingo: he is Johnny! He posts photos of himself in leathers, near his bike, with a helmet.

Bikers: Women either love it or loathe it. Jane like that Johnny rode a bike, liked adventure, and wanted to join a Club for couples who ride. He was cute – albeit, hiding behind the mask and sunglasses.

What the heck, she responded to his, “Hi, you look cute,” opening line.

They exchanged eight emails… both were highly curious about the other- and not wanting to appear too aggressive. Finally, Johnny asked Jane for coffee. She agreed. They met the next day and she was visibly taken back by his “costume” and size and noise of his  huge, silver and black  motorcycle. Jane is a petite, Vespa kind of a girl.  She was wearing a brand new, really cute skirt.

He had dreams of taking her to Pacifica. After seeing him all dressed up, with the noisy machine, she ‘remembered’ an appointment. She kicked herself for not paying attention to details – all his photos were on or near the motorcycle. He asked if she would like to meet for lunch since they both worked downtown. Nervous and embarrassed, she agreed.

That Monday afternoon, Jane met John. She really liked John. And so it begins.couple-437987__180